What is your favorite song to heal heartbreak or bring you out of a hole? Why? How did you discover it?

Posted 15Jun18

Oh, this is a good question and the answer has been on my mind a lot, lately.

“In A Moment” by the Stereophonics:

Don’t know where you’re going

Used to be a star

And everywhere you turn

They’re raining on your fire

You’re searching for an answer

Your hands and tongue are tied

And everything that you thought you knew

Is buried deep alive

If you follow this blog and/or my answers on Quora, you know that I am a retired UH-60 crew chief. My professional life for much of those 20 years was as a Standardization Instructor, and much of that time was spent being a subject matter expert on a wide variety of topics. Aircraft systems, and medical topics, doctrine, fundamentals of instruction… All of it valuable to my career and role as a mentor; all of it somewhat useless when I received my DD 214.

I’m looking in the mirror

I’m talking to myself

Stare at my reflection

And I look like someone else

Ask myself a question

Can I face another day?

So I look myself out in the eyes

And I tell myself again

Since I retired, I have often found myself wondering if those 20 years was just imagined. The purpose I once had was gone, so what else is there?

You could take tomorrow

If you wanna

You should take tomorrow

But you gotta wanna

The beauty of this song (and video) is that it is about rediscovery and re-purposing. Re-framing identity and finding that spark… that curiosity. There was a quote that popped up on Facebook which makes sense:

“You’ve made it this far to not just make it this far.”

Everything that yesterday was was a stepping stone to what tomorrow can be.

You just gotta wanna.

As for how I discovered it, the Stereophonics have been a favorite ever since I discovered them in an episode of “Rescue Me.” Deep, dark, and optimistic in a visceral sense.